The aspect that I think is more important in dealing with love is mutuality because if both partners are not committed in their relationship I don’t think it works out. In mutual love both partners feel love not only one person but both of them do and I think that’s important because how is a relationship going to work if not everybody in the relationship feels loved. Like said in the book there is no commitment if there is no love. Also both people need to be on the same level in the relationship and know what each other want. In a mutual relationship their also has to be trust and bell hooks says that in her book when she talks about mutuality.
Some aspects that I think people forget about are value and community. The media plays a big role on how people shape love to be like. Media shapes love to be a wonderful thing and sometimes like said in bell hooks book it isn’t you have to go through obstacles before you find love. People’s number one fear in trying to find love is fear but sometimes you have to get through that before you find love. I think people forget to think about how media shapes love and they forget to think about how that’s not always how love really is. I think people also forget that they can find love in their own community.
